Child's Question Regarding the Adopted Child: 'Who are her real parents?'
Sensitive to the point answer by the adult: 'She has 2 sets of parents: her birth parents and her adoptive parents. They're both real. We refer to the mom and dad who gave birth to her as her birth parents , not her "real parents" or "natural parents." The parents who adopted her are every bit as real and natural as those who gave birth to her. They are her real parents by adoption. When you see how her parents talk to her, hug & kiss her, play with her, read her bedtime stories, keep her safe, and take care of her when she's sick, you can tell those are her real parents. Those are her real parents and she is their real daughter.
2nd Question by child: 'Why does she look different?'
Answer from Adult: 'She looks different from her parents because she comes from somewhere else. But lots of families look different from each other, even when the children are not adopted. Besides, except for identical twins, everyone looks different. It's kind of nice to look different - the world would be a pretty boring place if everyone looked the same!
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